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Five Gates Trainers
Out experience with training interns has taught us that there are several essential and some less important factors necessary for becoming an excellent Five Gates trainer.
Essential Factors:
- The selfless desire to help people.
- A scholarly study of how and why the Five Gates program works.
- Dedication. Even Dr. Kesselman greatly improved after his first year and 100 patients.
- Confidence!!! The patient’s belief that you can and will help them is key.
- Patience. Patients will invariably lose the thread of your directed dialog since they don’t know exactly what your trying to do and what matters. They are also so personally involved and must never feel that they are making errors since only you have control of the Five Gate. Let them wonder until you’ve heard what’s on their mind, then redirect them gently, but firmly.
- High Intelligence. This is especially important because your mind must always contain a road map of what your trying to help the patient accomplish, even though you may let them THEM wonder within reasonable limits.
- Be nonjudgmental. No mater what they revel and how (especially then) strange or shocking the story they tell or the feelings they have. You must be supportive and keep in mind (most of all help them keep in mind) that they are not the authors of their lives, but rather the product of the influences that have acted upon them to shape them into the person they where or have become.
- Memory. It is very important to remember the key names of influential people in the patient’s life and history and to refer to them by name whenever possible, so that they know that you have been paying attention.
- Be prepared to be open about the relevant parts of your own history, especially at points where the patient needs assurance and to be loosened up.
Less Important Factors:
- Appearance and Manner. You should look professional, but not off-putting.
- Insist that patients keep appointments and are on time. At the same time you must be sympathetic concerning factors not reasonable in the control of the patient.
- Worldly Knowledge. I have found it most useful that I have a good grasp of cultures, history, and customs with respect to people’s from a wide varieties of backgrounds. This is especially helpful in helping your client discover the reasons for the customs, habits, and attitudes of their parents and grandparents which often have spill over effects on them which they don’t usually understand. Keep in mind that the more that they understand the factors that formed the personalities of their parent’s and grandparents, the more able they will be to factor in their personalities as well as their own. If you don’t know much about the cultures of their ancestors, humbly as them to explain what they know about them. This principle extents to the kinds jobs that people do and how those jobs also can have a great baring on their personalities.
- It’s especially helpful if you are articulate, and yet no mater how well educated you may be, you need to speak at a level your patient will understand. This is often a learned skill.